With my heart crossed, I value the small circle of friends in my life who are real friends. I have also made up my mind to be a good and not fake friend to them.
It takes a lot of time to develop an amazing circle of friends; becoming the kind of friend I would love to have in my circle takes a lot of time and strength.
It didn’t happen overnight. It took a lot of time to realize what I need in a friendship, how to relate with my friends and how to feel when they are around.
Who are fake friends?
Fake friends are those friends who do not have our best interests at heart. This kind of friend will talk about you behind your back. You may have the knowledge that they are kind of manipulative to others but you never knew they were doing the same to you.
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These kinds of friends are toxic. We will have friends like this because of the kind of world we live in. It is quite difficult to tell if someone is a fake friend because most of them try as much as they can to fake the fact that they are fake friends. They are the real fakers.
Have it in mind that once you start suspecting the sincerity of a friend it shows that something is not right. Trust your impressions.
What are the signs of fake friends?
1. Fake Friends Will Reveal Your Weakness Behind Your Back
It is only a fake friend that will speak against you behind your back. If he or she is a real friend, he/she will say good things about you and defend you when people speak poorly about you.
If they treat you differently when you are around and when you are not with them, then they have a flaw that needs to be crosschecked. If they will leak my secrets to strangers or enemies, you are a fake friend.
2. Fake Friends will Snob you after an Argument
It is normal to have differences in our opinion. It is quite boring if you agree with your friends about everything. The best time to know who your friends are is when you and they disagree on something. People (friends) tend to show their real selves when there is an argument about what they are passionate about.
Do your friends see you as one who is not worthy of their friendship or less human when you disagree with them on the issue.
3. Fake Friends Use You As Their Emotional Punching Bag
These kinds of friends pour their negativity and frustration on you. They are the set of friends that constantly ask for your opinion about their situation but never take your advice.
They put their problems on the table and force you to do their emotional labor on their behalf and sometimes, they tell you how they feel much better after hearing your advice and comfort.
Such fake friends maybe those who were abused by their partner. They explain in detail all the awful things that happen to them behind the closed door but stays with that same partner due to a misguided sense of love and loyalty.
They handover their negativity to you to deal with so their heart is lightened.
4. Fake Friends are Critical
Is your friend (fake) constantly criticizing you? It is time to take a closer took at your relationship with him/her. A real friend should be supportive and encourage you at a difficult time. Fake friends will make fun of your situation and put you down. Women, in particular, are guilty of this.
They fat-shame or make fun of someone who is thin or obese. This type of bully is dangerous as it might lead to an eating disorder and even self-harming behavior. Take your time to find friends who will encourage you instead of making a mockery of you.
5. Fake Friends Will Envy You
If your friends always have something trashy to say every time you succeed, then you are dealing with a fake friend. A real friend will celebrate your accomplishments.
It is obvious you are in an unhealthy friendship if your friend struggles with envy when you experience success. I, therefore, encourage you to look out for friends who will celebrate with you when you win and encourage you when you lose.
6. Fake Friends Will Tell Your Secrets
Friends who tell the world who you are crushing on is not a real friend. Good friends keep your secrets. They hide your flaws. If your friends always say things they are supposed to keep secret, then it is time to start questioning realness.
Trust is vital in a healthy friendship. If you cannot trust your friends, then you guys are not real friends.
7. Fake Friends Will Sell You Out
Have you noticed a friend is quiet when people bully you or even take part in the bully? Are your friends regularly selling you out to save their own skin, then you need to take to them about being so passive or better still look for another group of friends?
8. Fake Friends Hold Grudges and Never Forget
Fake friends hold whatever wrong you have done to them against you forever. I don’t act like they have forgiven you even when they say it.
They use “remember when you…” to remind you of the wrong you did to them. This happens especially when they wrong you; they will bring it up making it look like revenge.
When they say “remember when you…” what they are simply saying is “you are a bad person and I want you to know that or that you owe them because of that”.
How do you avoid fake friends
Telling someone you don’t want to be their friend may be harsh but if someone is going to lead you astray, you have to do away with them not minding how it turns out. There are two wayes to avoid these kind of fake people.
a) Give Them Some Space
To avoid fake friends you have to give them some space.
This may be difficult since these fake friends are people you normally spend a lot of time with, but to avoid such fake friends, it is vital to give them some space but reducing the amount of interact both of you have.
Do not let anyone know of your intention, simply decide on your own and keep it to yourself. Reduce every possibility of interacting with them. You may, for instance, change when you leave the office or when you go to the gym.
You should expect confrontation because they are going to come to you to know why you are doing things differently now.
b) Unfriend Them On Social Media
This is an awesome but difficult step to avoid fake friend(s). Delete them from your social media accounts. This step limits your interaction with them and also stops them from seeing things you post on your social media platform that they may likely use against you.
TYPES OF TOXIC FRIENDS:
What happens when negative meet positive, it produces a negative charge. That is what happens when you have a negative friend and meanwhile, you are positive.
Getting rid of negative energy around you will open the door for positive energy and positive experiences.
These are the kind of friends you need to avoid:
The Lying Friends
Do you have that friend that the majority of what they say is questionable? Then you have the lying type of toxic friend. If you have friends who lie often, it will have a negative effect on you their friend.
Your positive reputation can go down the drain because there is a saying that says “Show Me Your Friends and I will tell you who you are”. People will judge you based on the kind of friends you keep.
The Vampires
Every personal relationship should be mutual in terms of benefits. In friendship, there must be an equal level of giving and taking for it to survive. If you have a friend who is constantly taking but not giving, then he/she must be toxic to you.
If you do not distance yourself from this kind of person, you will begin to see a depletion in your resources day after day. Real friends should not make you feel depleted every time you are with them.
These kinds of friends want you to listen to their problems and assist them financially and otherwise but cut you off when you want to talk about your own problems. They do not have any meaningful to offer but leave you empty emotionally and otherwise.
A real friend brings fun and happiness to our lives. They are always there to support us in our time of need. They call you as much as you call and text them. They are always there for you in a real way.
I To Know Friends
In a friendship, varying opinion or point of view is expected but when it gets to the stage of an unhealthy debate, then the friendship is much like hard labor.
If your friend challenges almost everything you say, then you need to ask yourself the thing you have in common in your friendship.
The Criticizers
One part of friendship is being able to tell each other the truth when they are about to do something that is really stupid but then when they find fault in almost everything you do, that is totally toxic.
As friends, you should be free to express yourself in their presence without fear of being criticized. If they criticize you in certain situations, they are just trying to make sure you are on the right track, but if they criticize you in everything you do, then they are toxic and that you need to do away with.
Regular criticize kills moral and nobody wants that.
The Controller
Do you have friends who become angry whenever you want to spend time with another friend or get upset because you didn’t reply to their ext immediately? It is a sign of a toxic friend.
You have a life and can get busy at any time. If at any time you left a friend out of a group party and he/she gets upset, it is understandable. If your friend gets upset whenever you decide to do something without them, it is a sign of a controlling fake friend.
How Fake Friends Can Destroy Your Life:
Fake Friends Make You Feel Guilty
This kind of friend only cares about what you do for them. Fake friends will blame you even when you have not done anything wrong. These kinds of friends are manipulative.
They aren’t real friends. They pretend to have your interest at heart while utilizing the guilt strategy to get what they want from you.
They make you feel like you are the cause of the problem while playing the victim in almost everything. They prey on your emotional sensitivity and conscientiousness.
Unreal Friends Gossip About You
Real Friends will not talk bad about you. This is what fake friends do a lot. They do this because they do not care what happens to you.
Do not expect much from such people. There are people who fake love. They pretend to love and care about you but in reality, they don’t. You should recognize people who do not respect you.
They don’t mind saying bad things about you in your absence. They are toxic friends. People they tell these lies may believe and avoid you. You should avoid them as soon as possible.
Fake Friends are Bad Energy
Real friends see your SUCCESS as their SUCCESS so they do everything to make sure you succeed in achieving your goals. Real friends will support you when you are in a mess. They hold you by the hand and help you resolve your challenges.
Fake friends don’t care. They won’t listen to you when you explain your challenges to them and even if they do, they will also discourage you. Run!!!
The times you succeed, they will not celebrate with you. You are advised to stop sharing your accomplishments with this kind of friend as they are bad energy.
Some friends are competitive, imagine trying to outdo you to be better. They take your idea and try to do it first. It is time to find a better friend if you want to be happier.
How To Deal With Fake Friends:
Stop sharing your secrets with them
Stop sharing your secret with a friend who you feel is fake. You should do this in such a way that they will not have any clue that you disbelieve in them.
Fake friends will always want to know your secrets so they can exploit them and use them against you. Once you stop sharing your deepest secrets, they will find other ways of getting them.
Once you notice that they are pushing to get your secrets, then you will come to the conclusion that they are fake.
Distance Yourself From Fake Friends and Limit Your Interaction with Them
Have you discovered a fake friend and want to end it before it ruins you? You need to stay distanced from them. Reduce the time you spend with such a person gradually until you no longer have a contract .
Limiting the time with them will reduce the chances of them becoming aggravating to you. In some cases where you both attend a gathering of a group of people, you should keep distance while being polite which in every way is better than being rude.
This action will help you with fewer chances of engaging in a conversation with such an unreal friend. 
Find Out Why They Are Being Fake
Some toxic friends are fake for a reason. Why not find out why? Why a friend is being fake can make dealing with them easier. Ask questions about why they changed their behavior. Be polite and respectful so they won’t feel hurt or hide some things from you.
You can tell them you notice that their behavior has changed recently, what is the problem?
They can open up to you after that question.
Now It’s Time to Find New Friends
Okay, if people are fake after everything you shared, you need to move on. Open your arms to new friends. Be positive. Go grab a lot of them.
15 Best Fake Friends Quotes:
“Everybody isn’t your friend. Just because they hang around you and laugh with you doesn’t mean you are your friends. People pretend well. At the end of the day, real situations expose fake people, so pay attention.”
“Fake friends are around when they think you’re cool. True friends are around even when they think you’re a fool.”
“Fake friends are around when they think you’re cool. True friends are around even when they think you’re a fool.”
“A true friend cares about what’s going on in your life. A fake friend will make their problems sound bigger. Be a true friend.”
“As we grow up, we realize it becomes less important to have a ton of friends, and more important to have real ones.”
“A true friend cares about what’s going on in your life. A fake friend will make their problems sound bigger. Be a true friend.”
“If you’re talking about me behind my back that just means my life is obviously more interesting than yours.”
“Sometimes the people you’d take a bullet for, are the ones behind the trigger.” – Unknown
“Eliminate those fake friends who seem real when you have something and disappear when you have nothing.” – Rashida Rowe
“Be careful who you trust because as quickly as they say they’re your friend is how quick they can turn their backs on you.” – Abhishek Tiwari
“Before you count your friends, make sure you can count on them. Some friends are only around when they want something from you but are never there when you need something from them.” – Rashida Rowe
“It’s better to be around strangers than to keep fake friends at least we don’t expect anything from a stranger” – Unknown
“It’s funny how you’re nice to my face. It’s hilarious how you talk poorly behind my back. and it’s downright comical that you think I’m unaware.” – Unknown
“It is hard to deal with someone who smiles and pretends to like you to your face and sticks that eight-inch blade in your back when you turn around.” – Nishan Panwar
“An honest enemy is better than a false friend. When in doubt, pay more attention to what people do and less to what they say. Actions not only speak louder than words, but they are also more difficult to fake.” – Zero Dean
