Being happy is one of the primary desires in this life. Everyone makes their own concept of happiness. For some people it means having a lot of free time to rest, for some, it means bearing kids, for some, it means living the life fully. And the definitions do not stop here. Many need a mixture of conditions to feel good. You and I may have Fake Friends and Enemies.
This publication is not to explain where happiness lies but to say that regardless of one’s view of the world and priorities. It becomes difficult to be happy when you are next to someone who sabotages you in each opportunity.
Yes, some people often make small traps to ruin other people’s happiness, to block other people’s lives. I have never feared the declared enemies as I fear false friends.
Much worse than the declared enemies are fake friends. False Friends are the ones who know about our intimacy and essential information and take advantage of it by making life as good as hell for others. Whoever that has never faced someone like that should consider himself lucky. Whoever has never acted like a false friend, should be very happy.
In how many meals in a family or meetings between friends have we not found people who discredit the professional achievements of others? In how many family gatherings or among friends do we see people who, through jokes or advice, take away motivation and cast shadows on our love relationship or on any project we want to undertake? I am not saying that all opinion is harmful or that every joke is ill-intentioned.
Yes, there are good advice and tricks just to distract, without any evil intention. But, if people stopped to pay attention to what people say, they would realize that some individuals add little or no right to their life.
If you noticed that some people, even when showing kindness, do not help us at all, that they share nothing with people and that they stay close as a force that takes away momentum or simply to obtain some advantage. Many times, some people want something material or spiritual that we can offer them.
However, there is a good number of people who show friendship and affection with the simple goal of ruining the happiness of others.
People do not take advantage of their status as friends to destroy the love relationship of someone in their friend circle? How many of those fake friends do not damage the determination of those who are more intelligent and talented?
Some people do not take advantage of your family ties status to ask for illogical favors? Favours such as high amounts of money that they will not pay back. Lodging for an indefinite period or the other way around; intervening in the life of their relative. Determining how they should live because they “supported” them? How many couples do not destroy the spouse’s self-esteem with the sole aim of keeping him servile?
I am not saying that we should distrust everything and everyone at all times, nor do I defend the idea that everything is a conspiracy. I am raising the red flag about the danger posed by false friendships. Yes, such an abomination exists. I am simply inviting them to pay more attention to the people who make up their circle and to take stock of social relationships.
The friends we make in life, the real ones, the genuine ones, the real ones, can come to be counted on the fingers of one hand and still there are too many fingers. Throughout our life, with each experience, we learn and understand who they are.
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Those people who love us as they are and as we are, who do not expect anything from us. We know that the worst of us and still defend us, support us, and stand in solidarity. Most important of all, they do not doubt indicating us when we are doing something wrong.
Life teaches us masks, false looks, and dangerous smiles. It also shows us that not everything that glitters is gold. And that many times we think we have a great friend, that they are worse than any other enemy that can travel with us. It hurts to realize that a friend has betrayed you, that you played dirty, or that it did not turn out to be who you thought it was.
However, we cannot categorize any person as a friend, or neither as an enemy just because at some point we were opposed, or only did not act according to our interests.
We must be sensible when determining if a friend is not such. We like those who flatter us, who follow us, who tolerate us, but it is not precisely the best friend. The one who is not able to tell you straight to your face that you are wrong on the contrary, a true friend will be the first to make you see your mistakes.
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Enemies on the other hand, always act with greater cunning. They will still deprive their interests, and if they have a negative impression of you, any opportunity will be useful to make you lose ground and hurt you if necessary.
However, we already know, usually, by recognizing those who can be considered enemies, in any space, we are just more cautious. We are not dealing with enemies of life that we must lead to mourning, a lover of intrigue, for example, can become an adversary if at any time you decide not to become an accomplice of your negative comments, any simple detail can generate adversaries, antagonisms are also part of life.
Our friends are trusted, we believe in them, we share plans, joys and worse yet, great weaknesses. We trust them with secrets, and we are vulnerable to them because they are our confidants so that a fake friend handles much more information and more value than any possible enemy, this makes it much more dangerous to you than a declared enemy.
“Live the truth instead of professing it” – Elbert Hubbard
In this regard, we must be attentive. The signs always give us indications of those people we know are unconditionally from kindness, from honesty, and from love. We must be lucid to learn to discriminate and especially understand and accept that the masks exist and to look deeply, deep and observe always. These can be our best weapons.
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